Ask Allison: I cheated on my husband in the past whilst drunk - we've just had a baby and I feel so guilty. Should I confess?

Psychologist Allison Keating suggests that the guilt felt from past actions can be overwhelming, yet acknowledging it, even silently, can be a therapeutic experience. It's essential to understand that while the urge to confess stems from guilt, it's also vital to consider the potential ramifications on both partners, especially in a fragile period such as welcoming a new baby into the family. In this case, therapy or journaling might provide an outlet for these feelings, reducing the burden.

In situations where guilt arises from past mistakes, Keating emphasizes focusing on the present and the steps taken towards personal growth. Holding onto guilt can obstruct future happiness and relationships. The joy of parenting can overshadow past regrets if one learns to embrace a new lifestyle devoid of former habits. It’s important to recognize that the path taken since those past actions demonstrates significant personal development.

Read at Independent