Scroll through any wellness feed, and you might notice the same whiplash-inducing pattern. Dissociation is either a dangerous sign of pathology or "a protective intelligence that deserves reverence." Trauma responses are framed as evidence of brokenness or badges of resilience. Anxiety is either a disorder to eliminate or an intuition to honor. We've flattened the rich, complex reality of the nervous system into a binary: demonize or romanticize. But neither extreme helps us understand ourselves-or decide when we actually need support.
"The 'four F's' ― fight, flight, freeze and fawn ― refer to automatic nervous system responses to a perceived threat," Caitlyn Oscarson, a licensed marriage and family therapist, told HuffPost. "These are ingrained responses that can show up in traumatic situations, as well as everyday stress and overwhelm."