The day after my now-husband and I got engaged, we found ourselves talking frankly about what would happen if we ever got divorced. How would it unfold? Would it be different if we had children? We were studying families and couples in our graduate program, and we knew too much to pretend divorce would never happen to us. I have reflected on that moment often in the last 15 years.
No matter what their gods were, what they did for a living, what they wore, the songs they sang, everything varies except love, and everybody loves. So I became convinced that this was a real thing, that we were built somehow to form partnerships. And then the day came when I thought to myself, "Well, then it must be something in the brain."