A revealing example is the concept of " grudging respect."What is typically meant by the term is not respect at all but fear-based compliance. From a psychological perspective, behavior driven by fear is externally regulated; people comply to avoid negative consequences rather than because they feel heard, valued, or internally motivated. When someone obeys out of intimidation or pressure, the foundation for meaningful negotiation is absent (even if one party appears to win).
Jamal [Shead], a lot's been made about your leadership on this team, especially being a young player and you organized with the guys and some stuff. I was just wondering like, how I guess, it comes naturally with you, but how hard is it to do when you're, you know, just going into your second year? Some guys might feel like more, you know, bashful, more like shy about it, but you don't. So, where does that come from? And how comfortable are you in that role already?
1. Respect Is Not Control - It's ConsiderationLetting your partner know where you are, who you're with, or when you'll return home isn't about surrendering your freedom - it's about being considerate and showing RESPECT. It's a simple way of saying, "You matter to me," and that small gesture can build enormous trust. 2. Little Updates Communicate CareWhen you share your plans with your partner, you're not just giving information; you're saying, "I care about how you feel." These small actions show that you value their peace of mind and emotional security, especially during long hours apart or busy seasons.
Make sure that nothing has happened between your daughter and your parents to cause her not to want to spend time with them. Shy of an egregious incident between them, my recommendation is that you let your daughter know that you need her to show up and be respectful at these family events; they are not optional.