#insecurity

#insecurity

Gossiping about someone else gave me a fleeting escape, since it allowed me to shift my focus to someone else's behavior. Every time I did it, I felt a sense of guilt and shame after.

We've all been there. Scrolling through social media at 2 AM, crafting the perfect caption for that sunset photo, or debating whether to post about that promotion. But somewhere along the way, I started noticing patterns in what people share online, including my own posts. The more I observed, the clearer it became: certain types of posts scream insecurity louder than any confession ever could.

My husband is 76 but doesn't look a day over 60. He has a full head of hair with little graying, no facial wrinkles, and he's fairly fit. I'm 71 and look every day my age, probably older. I have graying hair lots of it but I like the color and will never dye it. I am fit, but the deep facial wrinkles and turkey neck emphasize my age.

I started modeling when I was 19. I was hanging out with what I considered to be some of the most beautiful people in the world. What I realized really quickly was that everybody had an insecurity. Everybody. You look in the mirror long enough, you'll find something you don't like, or that you think could be better, or you think could be different.

Both children and partners of narcissistic people report a lack of satisfaction in their relationships with them. (1, 2) They mention such themes as insecurity in relationships, unrealistic expectations, a negative or fragile sense of self and difficulty with intimacy, as well as infidelity. (2,3) Narcissism is also connected with aggression, which in turn is negatively linked with the partner's relationship satisfaction. (2)

Your husband's sex toy is not necessarily a reflection of how he feels about sex with you, so the best way to approach this is to give him the benefit of the doubt.

"I can hold convos... Instead, what I got was nail salon workers joking around in their own language about who wants to touch the disgusting white people's hands."

I think Black men have just been shit on for so long, that... they see what's happened to them. So many Black men grow up without fathers.