Do you lavish attention on others but rarely receive it? It's time to get in touch with your own needs

To build a better life you have to make your unconscious conscious. I realize that I often act as if I'm the therapist instead of the patient.

This dynamic that shapes many of my relationships, of seeking to be the one who offers care and never the one receiving it, protects me from awareness of my own vulnerabilities.

It is far more comfortable than actually being in touch with my own needs, but it comes at a cost, as my true yearnings go neglected.

Though it's galling to reject my analyst's offers, I know that understanding this pattern is essential for my personal growth.

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