The article emphasizes the importance of self-responsibility, particularly in the context of women facing societal expectations to address the needs of others. It argues that such expectations often lead to burnout and a lack of personal growth. The author shares personal experiences of sacrificing her own needs for the benefit of others, which hinders her potential to contribute meaningfully. The piece advocates for a shift in mindset, where individuals, especially women, cease to assume responsibility for others' emotions and problems, leading to healthier relationships and personal empowerment.
People cannot delegate themselves. They cannot delegate self-control, self-regulation, self-knowledge, or self-improvement. Everyone is ultimately responsible for themselves.
I have been held tacitly responsible for all the other adults around me. I have spent personal resources tackling everyone else's problems without reserving enough time for my needs.
If this were no longer true, and women just stopped doing it for others as the default assumption, we would hopefully get to the point where women wouldn't be demonized for not doing it automatically.
I'd like to think we would all be better people. I'd like to think it would be a better world.
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