"He still gets hard enough to have enjoyable penetrative sex, but I do miss the days of him getting rock hard. Is there any way to bring up the possibility of him occasionally taking a little blue pill without hurting his feelings? Not every time, but once in a while would be nice! But even without a robust erection, the sex is mind-blowing, so I don't want to risk messing things up. I'd rather have him half-hard than not at all. Is there a script I can use to gently make this suggestion, or should I let it go and just be grateful for what I have?"
"Approach-something a script or template could help with-can absolutely be a factor in how a person receives questions along the lines of whether they've considered erectile support medication. Another huge aspect, and one that usually points to the best way to broach a subject, is the individual in question. So, what do you know about your lover as a person? About his relationship to his body, and, specifically, his sexuality? Is he really focused on his erections and sensitive about them? Is he more holistic about sex? Basically, how likely is it that pointing out his generally softer state as of late will completely crush his ego and derail the still mind-blowing sex you have now?"
Assess the partner’s sensitivity about erections, relationship dynamics, and typical communication patterns before bringing up erectile-support medication. Consider age and diabetes as likely contributors to changes in firmness while acknowledging that current sex remains highly satisfying. Choose a gentle, tailored approach: use vulnerability if the relationship already includes open, emotional conversations, or a pragmatic, brief mention if interactions are more physical. Emphasize occasional, not constant, use and frame the suggestion to protect the partner’s ego. Prioritize preserving the existing pleasurable sex while offering options that could enhance occasional firmness.
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