Bickering between in-laws often seems trivial, but it may not carry the same weight for them as for an observer. While loud arguments can be distressing for some, they may simply perceive them as normal exchanges. Rather than confronting them about their behavior, it's more effective to change one's perspective and understand their dynamics. Asking questions about their well-being after a fight could open up dialogue and clarify misunderstandings, perhaps revealing that they handle conflict differently than others.
Yelling about ketchup in Golden Corral may seem absurd, but for your in-laws, it is a loud exchange that doesn't cause emotional harm or scars.
It's fair to prefer quiet experiences over loud, but it's easier to adjust your perception of their fights than to change their behavior.
Instead of threatening to cut off your in-laws, consider asking them if they are okay after an argument to understand their perspective.
Recognizing that you grew up in a non-arguing family can help you contextualize their behavior, which might not be an issue for them.
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