The letter details a significant rift in a long-time friendship due to one friend's blunt criticism regarding hosting skills. After expressing grievances about her friend's conversation style, which she feels neglects guests, the author received a hostile response. The column recommends the author acknowledge her missteps in communication for potential reconciliation, highlighting the importance of how criticism is received. It emphasizes that expressing concerns about someone’s character can lead to resentment and that repair may require sincere apologies and an understanding of each other's perspectives.
If you would prefer to have things smoothed over at least to the point of pleasantries you can tell her what you told me.
I chose the wrong time and the wrong words. I know that I hurt your feelings and I'm sorry.
A lot of your complaints were gripes about who she is as a person. Even if you're right, it's easy to see why she'd be resentful.
It also seems that your opinion still stands which doesn't bode well for reconciliation.
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