"It sounds like your friendship has a communication problem. You've expressed a want and your friend didn't acknowledge that want. It's understandable, then, that you'd feel disappointed. I imagine that if he's not hearing you when you ask for thanks, there may be other areas in which the two of you are disconnected. It's worth taking a step back and asking yourself what is most important in this relationship and how you can meet each other in the middle."
"I just cannot stand people who take everything for granted. Also, he never recognizes his mistakes and blames others. The above is all due to a complex of inferiority. My defect is expecting people to behave as I do, and if not, I just disconnect. Recently I invited him for dinner for the holiday, and he said he had other plans. No thanks at all for my thought. That was the straw that broke the camel's back."
A person repeatedly shared helpful tips and articles with a friend who never expressed appreciation, and requests for thanks went unacknowledged. The person felt disappointed, paused communication, and described the friend as unwilling to admit mistakes and prone to blaming others. The person attributed the friend's behavior to an inferiority complex and recognized a personal pattern of disconnecting when others do not mirror their behavior. The response advises stepping back, clarifying what matters most in the relationship, and considering alternative sources of validation. The response also suggests that misaligned needs and offerings may require right-sizing expectations and meeting each other halfway.
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