"You can't suppress your beliefs merely by feeling guilty about having them. While it's possible to exhibit only one form of perfectionism, many perfectionists present with several. For example, many are concerned with professional achievement and are also preoccupied with being good people, leading to conflicting values."
"To become extremely successful, arguably, one has to believe they're special; thus, every comparison brings relief and motivation. This means that self-esteem and self-efficacy are built on the backs of others, which may conflict with moral perfectionism that entails compassion and humility."
"For a perfectionist, who's fixated on rules, this can feel impossible to keep track of and embody. Add in the element of black-and-white thinking, and we can argue that perfectionism is a state marked by confusion, leading to anxiety and hopelessness."
Perfectionists often face a struggle between the desire to feel special and the need to be good. This internal conflict arises from competing values, such as success-oriented perfectionism and moral perfectionism. The pursuit of authenticity clashes with societal expectations, creating confusion. Perfectionists may feel pressured to excel while also being modest, leading to anxiety. Black-and-white thinking exacerbates this struggle, making it difficult to reconcile the need for pride with the desire for righteousness. The result is a complex emotional landscape marked by confusion and hopelessness.
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