"In one camp are those for whom reaching a specific goal is the driver. Whether it is going to New York City, making a million dollars and becoming a CEO, or completing the painting or novel they've been working on, these folks are always looking ahead to a finish line. For others, the journey to New York is the focus; what they do every day on the job is what counts, and the act of painting or writing-the doing-is its own reward."
"Outcome-driven people have a strong sense of purpose and take pride in their accomplishments. In a relationship with someone like themselves, they can inspire and motivate their partner through their shared view of life's priorities. At work, they are admired for their discipline and achievements, and as parents, they serve as strong role models of hard work and focus."
"Because they are always looking ahead, the present becomes a blur or something to simply get through on their forward march. Because they can't control the future, they are prone to anxiety; if they don't reach their goals or if things don't turn out as they hoped, they can be self-critical and prone to depression. When paired with a process-focused partner, they can feel frustrated by the partner's perceived lack of drive or feel that they are doing the heavy lifting."
"The key is finding the happy middle where you have a sense of purpose yet can still appreciate everyday life."
Some people are driven by specific outcomes, while others are driven by the process of doing. Outcome-driven people have strong purpose, pride in accomplishments, and can motivate partners, earn admiration at work, and model hard work as parents. Their weakness is that constant focus on a finish line can blur the present, increase anxiety about uncontrollable futures, and lead to self-criticism or depression when goals are missed. Process-focused people value daily actions and find reward in doing, but they can drift, miss opportunities, and later regret not pursuing goals. The best approach is a “happy middle” that preserves purpose while still enjoying everyday life.
Read at Psychology Today
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