How to Feel Loved: A Book to Revolutionize Relationships

The book How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most is written by Harry Reis and Sonja Lyubomirsky. Lyubomirsky is a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at UC Riverside and has appeared on TED Mainstage and in The New York Times Magazine. The authors reviewed decades of happiness and relationship research over seven years. The central conclusion is that happiness comes from feeling loved rather than being loved. The five mindsets—Sharing, Listening-to-Learn, Radical Curiosity, Open-Heart, and Multiplicity—aim to increase feeling loved by changing the next conversation rather than changing oneself or the other person.

"My co-author and I spent 7 years reviewing decades of research in happiness science and relationship science, and we came to a simple but powerful conclusion: The key to happiness isn't being loved; it's feeling loved. We introduce five mindsets-Sharing, Listening-to-Learn, Radical Curiosity, Open-Heart, and Multiplicity-that will help you to feel more loved in your most important relationships! You'll do it not by changing yourself, not by changing the other person, but by changing your next conversation."

Read at Psychology Today