Kirk Martin of the Calm Parenting Podcast argues that parental lectures often stem from anxiety about a child's future rather than effective teaching. He warns that lecturing can damage a child's confidence by implying a lack of trust in their abilities. Instead of fostering understanding, it's a way for parents to exert control, ultimately harming the parent-child relationship. In the long run, he suggests that parents replace lecturing with confidence-building approaches that respect children's ability to learn from their mistakes.
Nobody likes being on the butt end of a lecture - but, they feel so very important when you're the one giving them.
Lecturing is not teaching. It's micro-managing them.
It says, because of my anxiety about your future, I am going to try to control how you do things.
We have anxiety issues. We have control issues that will destroy your child's confidence.
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