In these homes, a high value gets placed on achievement. I think the way these kids are created sends the message: "You're not good enough. You need to achieve. You're not accepted."
Sometimes, parents chose an egg donor and then later found out that she had psychiatric problems. Then the kid gets viewed through that lens, which can be pretty devastating and traumatic: "Your donor is nuts, so you must be, too."
I help parents accept: This is the child that you have. And I help kids accept the reality of their parents and forge a relationship that's less hurtful-or build a life without them.
In high school, a lot of teens are linking up with half-siblings through 23andMe, sometimes ones who live all over the world.
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