The article reflects on the author's journey from a fluid, boundary-less friendship circle in youth to a more discerning approach as a parent. With a background of people-pleasing and a lack of role models for healthy boundaries, the author navigated adult relationships by excusing harmful behaviors. Therapy has been a turning point, helping establish vital boundaries. Now nearing 40, the author aims to foster a healthier environment for their daughters, prioritizing relationships that contribute positively while also distancing from those that do not.
I had an insatiable desire for unique experiences and a multifaceted community, no matter the cost. Throughout that time, I found myself excusing behaviors in friends that hurt me.
Through therapy, I've learned how to set boundaries in both new and old relationships, and I hope to pass these hard-learned lessons down to my daughters.
I wasn't raised in a household that modeled healthy boundaries or welcomed difficult conversations. I was taught to be amenable and not to question authority.
As I near 40, I'm being more thoughtful about who I spend time with, embracing relationships that add value and surround myself with positive influences.
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