"We've often been told we need to be confident, strong, and bold in our decisions-to say "yes" or "no" quickly and decisively. But what if we're not sure? Perhaps a "protector part" inside us shouts, "Be decisive; don't appear weak." But when a friend asks us for a favor, or our partner suggests a dinner party or trip to the in-laws, we don't have to decide on the spot. There's no shame in sitting with it-there's often much to consider."
"Imagine your partner asks you to join them for Thanksgiving with their family-again. You notice an immediate shudder as you remember how disengaged you felt last year. Not because they're bad people, but it just wasn't satisfying for you. Maybe you even promised yourself you wouldn't do that again. What if you didn't cave to pressure-internal or external-to answer right away?"
Saying 'maybe' creates intentional space to consider competing internal parts, such as a protector urging decisiveness and a part that wants to please others. Pausing before responding reduces pressure, allows reflection on past experiences, and prevents resentment from quick yeses that don't feel right. Using 'maybe' works as a compassionate placeholder to honor personal needs while checking logistics, emotions, or commitments. Practical examples show expressing appreciation for requests followed by a need to sit with the decision or consult others. Embracing 'maybe' reframes hesitation as self-care and supports clearer, more authentic commitments.
Read at Psychology Today
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