The article discusses the importance of humility and effective communication, especially for individuals who may struggle with social norms, like autistic youth. It emphasizes how negating statements can lead to miscommunication and highlights the importance of curiosity in problem-solving. The author reflects on their personal journey of overcoming self-deprecation and learning the value of standing up for oneself while respecting others. Furthermore, it critiques traditional social skills training that often promotes passivity rather than healthy assertiveness in conflict situations.
When social skills are taught to young people, there tends to be some bias toward passivity. Traditional conceptualizations of "good manners" do not always align with effective communication.
Negating statements can prime others to disregard us and our ideas. This can lead to issues in communication and collaboration.
When we are able to be curious, we are in the best space for creative problem-solving. Curiosity opens doors to understanding and cooperation.
I found that others would repeat the negative things I said about myself or show discomfort. This behavior was not my intention and needed to be addressed.
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