"Get to know and be friends with other gays," said one. "Meaningful, genuine, healthy romantic relationships come from friendship. Not from passionate s*xual encounters with strangers. And focus on your health, your style, hobbies, mental clarity through expunging all the toxins built up from ... mistreatment in your childhood."
"Be an active part of your community. Volunteer for events, get involved with politics or social situations that intrigue you. Meet gay men and women of all ages and types. These friendships that you develop will last many years. By giving back, you gain."
""Don't try to please anyone," said one person. "Be radically yourself. This way you will attract guys for what you are, not for a performance you couldn't possibly sustain forever. Don't try to belong. You do you."
Prioritize building meaningful friendships because romantic relationships often develop from friendship rather than casual sexual encounters. Participate actively in community events, volunteering, and politics to meet a diverse range of gay people and form lasting bonds. Maintain physical and mental health through preventive measures like PrEP and DoxyPEP, and avoid chemsex and harmful substances. Remove toxic people from life and invest in healing from childhood mistreatment, personal style, and hobbies. Learn gay history, cultivate an authentic voice, and resist performing to please others in order to attract compatible partners.
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