"We often confuse setting boundaries with making requests, demands, or complaints. Each of the latter focuses on what someone else does, whereas setting a boundary is about what you do."
"A complaint allows you to make it clear that you don't like something that is happening in your relationship, without risking the vulnerability of requesting what you want to have happen instead."
"A demand insists on 'yes' for an answer. It is grounded in the assumption that you can control another person's behavior. This is not how healthy, respectful relationships are built."
"A request of others is not selfish or mean. It is a respectful way to ask for what you need, whilst giving others the freedom to choose what feels right for them."
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