The article discusses the challenge of changing ingrained feedback approaches within a workplace. It emphasizes the importance of remaining open-minded and curious when faced with differing management choices. Rather than confronting managers defensively, one should seek to understand their decisions better. If direct communication is ineffective, alternative methods for presenting change are suggested, such as visual aids like documents or presentations. The author cautions against bypassing managers for discussions about them, advocating for transparency and trust during such processes.
The truth is, the way they approach feedback is probably something they've learned over many years, and is deeply engrained; so getting them to change their approach is unlikely (not impossible) and regardless, there's plenty to learn along the way.
If you're confronted with "you don't understand my choices because you're not a manager"; maybe you could reply by saying you'd really appreciate it if they could find a little bit of time to try and explain the choices so that you can learn.
If that doesn't work, you have a couple of other avenues to explore. You could try and change how you're presenting what you'd like to see changed.
As for your thoughts on bypassing your manager, in general I never recommend speaking about someone unless they are in the room with you.
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