Hite learned early on that women walk a sexual tightrope: 'If you had too much sex, you could be shunned like her mother was; if you didn't have enough, you could be deserted like her grandmother.'
Dr. Mindy DeSeta states, 'Penis size is often treated like a shortcut - the bigger the penis, the more pleasure someone can supposedly give.' This cultural belief can significantly impact men's self-esteem and sexual confidence.
A few years ago, I, a 21-year-old man, agreed to take part in a stupid frat hazing activity. Unbeknownst to "Felipe," a 21-year-old man, I performed oral sex on him during that activity while he was blindfolded. At the time, Felipe was just an acquaintance-we didn't become good friends until much later. Felipe's big brother at the frat, "Ron," is the only person besides me who knows that I performed oral on Felipe.
In the past, when we've done these analyses, we've seen couples express an interest in bondage play or sensory play. But this year, we're almost seeing a shift towards getting back to basics. I found it so interesting that regardless of gender, age or where you live, people want more oral sex.
