I met Jennifer in Medellín when she accompanied Mateo to one of his restorative justice sessions. She did not sit next to him. She chose a chair at the back of the session room, hands clasped tightly, eyes fixed on him as if watching something that could change direction at any moment. Mateo spoke calmly about his past. Jennifer listened with a tension that revealed what words had not yet surfaced. Mateo's story follows a pattern psychology knows well.
Toronto police have identified Himanshi Khurana, 30, as the victim of a homicide they say appears to be an act of intimate partner violence. Officers say they responded to a report of a missing person in the Strachan Avenue and Wellington Street W. area on Friday night. On Saturday around 6:30 a.m., police say they located the missing woman's body in a residence.
Talking about being raped by a man felt easier to talk about, though none of this is ever easy. It fits a narrative people recognize: men harm, women and queer people suffer. There's room for that story. There's language for it. There's sympathy for it. There are even movements for it. But when I say a woman in a queer relationship later assaulted me, the air changes. There's discomfort. There's silence. There's deflection, an unspoken disbelief that a woman could assault another woman.
"She was the first transgender person many had the chance to meet through her role as an influencer on TikTok and likely saved lives by being an example for people looking for the words to describe their own journey. Her death takes place during a time of deep grief and mourning as our community commemorates Transgender Awareness Week and Transgender Day of Remembrance and Resilience."
Nearly one in three women totalling about 840 million around the world have experienced intimate partner or sexual violence in their lifetimes, the World Health Organization (WHO) said in a new report. Released on Wednesday, it also found 316 million women and girls aged 15 and older were subjected to physical or sexual violence by an intimate partner over the past year.
Steve messed up all the time, his wife said, because he's "sloppy," and, truth be told, "stupid." A few years into their marriage, words like "always" and "never" entered the mix. He "always fucked up." He could "never be trusted" - even to fill out a simple form, and certainly not to spend money without her approval. Steve was told he misjudged people and that he needed his wife to tell him what to say so that everyone wouldn't hate him.
People want to understand how and why women experience violence at the hands of people who claim to love them, and they want to know what women can do when they've experienced these atrocities. They want a window into making sense of an experience, either because it's so seemingly foreign or so altogether disturbingly familiar as to resemble their own. This is why we often crave insight into others' perceptions of their own lives as well as their perceptions of others' reactions.