#financial-conflict

#financial-conflict

In the early stages, we agreed to continue to spend time together as a family to make things easier for the kids, which has included twice-weekly dinners, and holidays spent together. It's worked in one critical way: the kids are doing OK and, although they're not happy about the situation overall, they have adjusted well to the changes in our lifestyle.

On the surface, it looks like this couple is a gross mismatch, and they often present that way in couple therapy. The saver complains of all the debt the spender has accumulated, and the number of times he or she has bailed the spender out of trouble. The spender in turn becomes defensive, presenting evidence that his or her spending is necessary, not frivolous - some even claim that unlucky circumstances are the culprit.