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fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Brother-in-Law Got Drunk and Ruined Our Couch. I Didn't Think Getting Him to Pay Would Be So Controversial.

I get that you're not worried about money, but even beyond the principle, consider the time and ick factor. It's not about punishing him for his behavior. We're talking natural consequences-drunk or not, if you destroy someone's furniture, you should probably offer to fix the problem. Unfortunately, he might not even recall peeing on your couch (a phrase I never expected to write in a money column, but here we are) so the responsibility is on you and your wife to bring it up.
Relationships
#beckham-family
#forgiveness
fromThe Conversation
3 days ago
Philosophy

What we get wrong about forgiveness - a counseling professor unpacks the difference between letting go and making up

Forgiveness is an internal act of releasing ill will, distinct from reconciliation, and reconciliation may be inadvisable or unsafe in some situations.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago
Mental health

Why We Hold Grudges: The Psychology of Whether to Forgive

Expectations to forgive or behave 'normally' can trigger anticipatory anxiety, shame, and make forgiveness difficult due to self-protective defenses and trauma.
fromThe Conversation
3 days ago
Philosophy

What we get wrong about forgiveness - a counseling professor unpacks the difference between letting go and making up

Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 days ago

Help! I Drained My Life Savings for My Mother. Then I Found Out What She'd Been Doing to Me.

Parental financial irresponsibility can ruin an adult child's credit, deplete savings, and create betrayal while complicating options for confrontation and recovery.
fromwww.mercurynews.com
3 days ago

Asking Eric: I draw the line at this woman smoking in my yard

Dear Eric: My youngest son is in his mid-40s. He had some heavy mental issues a few years ago and moved back home to our basement. Prior to the breakdown, his wife left him, he lost a job he loved, and soon he started dating Leslie. She became pregnant, and our beautiful granddaughter was born but passed at two months and two days from SIDS. Our hearts were and are still broken.
Relationships
#wedding-etiquette
#boundary-setting
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago
Relationships

Help! My Mother Has Always Detested My Husband. But Her New Campaign Against Him Has Pushed Me Over the Edge.

fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago
Relationships

Help! My Mother Has Always Detested My Husband. But Her New Campaign Against Him Has Pushed Me Over the Edge.

fromVulture
6 days ago

One in a Million Is a Stunning Real-Life Refugee Epic

In Cologne, the family is greeted with a small but comfortable new home, and Israa enters a school where her classmates and teachers seem kind and curious to learn more about her. Over the years, however, things change. Israa begins to feel the prying eyes of others, and she begins to react against her family, in particular her father, Tarek, with whom she was once incredibly close but who now seems like a man out of time and place, wedded to traditions left behind.
Film
#pregnancy
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago
Parenting

My Due Date Coincides With a Sad Day in My Sister's Past. But What She's Asking Me to Do About It Is Way Out of Bounds.

fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago
Parenting

My Due Date Coincides With a Sad Day in My Sister's Past. But What She's Asking Me to Do About It Is Way Out of Bounds.

fromIndependent
1 week ago

Family feuds similar to Beckhams 'reflect private struggles happening quietly in many homes'

When you have overly-invested parents and a child trying to strike out into the world on their own, conflict is inevitable The fallout of the Beckham family saga has been echoing throughout the entertainment landscape this week - yet family feuds like this can be more common than we might realise, according to leading psychotherapists and counsellors. Rumours of the Beckham family rift have been circulating for a year, but it was officially confirmed by Brooklyn Beckham (26) in an explosive four-page statement on Monday.
UK news
Soccer (FIFA)
fromwww.fourfourtwo.com
1 week ago

David Beckham's former team-mate involved in awkward moment when questioned over Brooklyn Beckham fallout

Brooklyn Peltz Beckham publicly disowned his parents, prompting media scrutiny and awkward questions for former teammate Albert Celades at a press conference.
UK news
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

Brooklyn Beckham Just Went Nuclear on His Family. Unfortunately, I Can Explain How This Happened.

Brooklyn Beckham publicly accused his parents of prioritizing Brand Beckham and controlling his life, claiming family promotion and endorsements come above his wellbeing.
#mother-in-law
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago
Relationships

My Mother-in-Law Did Something Unforgivable at Our Anniversary Party. My Husband Thinks She'll Behave at Our Next Shindig, But I Don't.

fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago
Relationships

My Mother-in-Law Did Something Unforgivable at Our Anniversary Party. My Husband Thinks She'll Behave at Our Next Shindig, But I Don't.

Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

We Have No Choice But to Sell My Mother's House. There's One Exasperating Person Standing in My Way.

A reluctant sibling is blocking the sale of an elderly mother's house needed to fund assisted living, risking the mother's finances within months.
#parenting
fromIndependent
1 month ago
Relationships

Family estrangement is on the rise - why are so many of us going 'no contact' and what is the fallout?

Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

I'm Questioning Humanity After Reading These Pieces Of Parenting "Advice" People Have Actually Received

A parent soothed a toddler's stranger anxiety at a family gathering despite a cousin's criticism and later used the cousin's coat as a diaper pad.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I Left My Baby With My Husband's Grandmother for One Minute. That Can Never Happen Again.

Rubbing a small amount of brandy on an infant's gums is a traditional teething remedy but is medically discouraged and poses safety risks.
fromIndependent
1 month ago
Relationships

Family estrangement is on the rise - why are so many of us going 'no contact' and what is the fallout?

fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago
Parenting

I'm Questioning Humanity After Reading These Pieces Of Parenting "Advice" People Have Actually Received

#boundaries
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago
Relationships

Help! I Sent My Stepmother a Simple, Boundary-Setting Text. I Was Not Prepared for the Bomb She Dropped in Return.

fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago
Relationships

Help! I Sent My Stepmother a Simple, Boundary-Setting Text. I Was Not Prepared for the Bomb She Dropped in Return.

fromBuzzFeed
1 week ago

People Born After 2005 Are Talking About Their Childhood Photos Being Posted Online, And I Would Not Be Happy About This

Having had a fairly analogue childhood in the late '90s/early 2000s, the scope of my baby and childhood photos extends to the odd physical photo album and a couple embarrassing framed pics around my family home. The rapid digital revolution, particularly the arrival of social media, drastically changed media storage and the landscape of photo/video sharing.
Privacy professionals
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

My Mother-in-Law Put My Kids in Danger Because "That's How They Did It in Her Day." I'm Seeing Red.

Children must use appropriate car and booster seats for safety; caregivers, including grandparents, must comply and parents should enforce nonnegotiable boundaries.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks ago

You be the judge: should my daughter pay the fine we incurred dropping her at the airport?

The next day, Bill said he'd drop her off at the airport, and we used her car for the journey since it could fit all her luggage in. It was a favour to her, and she was very grateful. However, when she got home three weeks later, she called to tell us that she had a parking ticket at home, because we didn't pay the airport's drop-off charge when we arrived.
Relationships
Film
fromDefector
2 weeks ago

Mom Crimes And Other International Laws | Defector

A college student hid her relationship until graduation, revealing her boyfriend while picking up her parents at the airport, prompting a dramatic maternal revenge.
Business
fromFortune
2 weeks ago

Whole Foods cofounder says his hardest ever business decision was firing his father from his company board: 'That was when my mentorship was over' | Fortune

Firing his father from the Whole Foods board in 1994 was John Mackey's most difficult yet pivotal business moment.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

Help! I Knew My Mother-in-Law Hated Me. But the Lie She's Spreading About Me Now Is Unbelievable.

A mother-in-law spread false rumors about the daughter-in-law's past, prompting consideration of a defamation lawsuit and significant family conflict.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks ago

Act of family vengeance': French defamation case highlights perils of writing autofiction

The Polish poet Czesaw Miosz is famously credited with the line: When a writer is born into a family, the family is finished. In contemporary European literature, a book these days is often the beginning of a familial feud. With thinly disguised autobiographical accounts of family strife undergoing a sustained boom across the continent, it can increasingly lead to family reunions in courtrooms.
Books
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
2 weeks ago

My husband and I learned that blending our families was a terrible mistake. Now we live alongside each other.

Forcing a blended family into one unit caused conflict; allowing families to live side by side preserved the marriage and created lasting peace.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Discovered My Sister is Dating a Registered Sex Offender. Somehow I've Become the Bad Guy.

A family fractured after a woman dated a registered sex offender, prompting emergency custody transfer and estrangement between siblings and their mother.
fromBuzzFeed
3 weeks ago

14 Almost-Fiances Who Asked Their S.O.'s Parents Before Proposing And Were Told "No"

I emailed her dad, asking when would be a good time for me to come over to talk. He sent me a bunch of Bible quotes. I told him I'd like to have a conversation with him and her mother. He sent me an email lecture about sex outside of marriage. OK, I thought, maybe I need to be more explicit. Next email: Subject: I want to marry your daughter. His reply: We can't bless that union.
Relationships
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Why Other People Just Don't Get It

People often fail to understand others because of low reflective functioning and poor empathic attunement, but perspective-taking skills can be practiced and improved.
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

Help! I Fought Back Against an Older Man's Revolting Advances. My Family's Reaction Hurt Even More.

After yet another dreary comment about my tits, I kind of rolled my eyes and yawned, and he said, "If you're bored, sweetie, we can always go back to mine." I just replied, "Ew." He replied, "If you Googled me, you'd be dying to come with me." That's when I whipped out my phone and said, "Sure, do I search for the world's biggest douche or is it the world's tiniest dick?" He completely lost it and had to be removed from the premises by the staff at the event, who threatened to call the police.
Relationships
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Was in Charge of the Cake for My Nephew's First Birthday. When We Brought It Out, We Realized Our Grave Mistake.

An accidental erotic cake was brought to a one-year-old's birthday, causing family outrage, estrangement, and blocked communication despite apologies.
#inheritance
from24/7 Wall St.
1 month ago
Law

'I've already helped them enough': I inherited a $60K art collection at 52, but my half-sibling wants a share. Should I give in to their demands?

from24/7 Wall St.
1 month ago
Law

'I've already helped them enough': I inherited a $60K art collection at 52, but my half-sibling wants a share. Should I give in to their demands?

#sibling-estrangement
fromSlate Magazine
4 weeks ago

My Twin Sister's New Boyfriend Is a Walking Red Flag. I'm the Only One With the Guts to Say Anything.

For some godforsaken reason, my twin sister has decided that some 50-year-old sad sack, less than a year into his divorce, is her new soulmate. His oldest child is less than seven years apart from us in age. He left his wife of 25 years because he was "afraid of not living." He just is begging fate to be 20 again.
Relationships
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

19 People Who Witnessed Holiday Drama So Messy It Deserves Its Own Hallmark Movie

Holiday gatherings often reignite old family conflicts, with alcohol frequently amplifying tensions and turning celebrations into chaotic, embarrassing incidents.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 month ago

My Mom Made Me A Bumble Account Without My Knowledge. But That's Not Even The Most Hurtful Part.

Daughter feels violated and frustrated after her mother created a Bumble profile for her without consent, causing family tension.
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month ago

Asking Eric: My wife won't forgive my mother's mental state during the wedding planning

My mother is a nurse and has asthma and was deeply hit with mental and emotional stress from the pandemic. She would not attend most wedding planning events and would always be concerned with germs, wearing an N95 mask and keeping her distance. My wife had a completely opposite reaction to the pandemic. It was more of a nuisance to her. In her eyes, there was no threat.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

There's Only One Gift I Need. We Can Afford It, But My Husband Outright Refuses.

A woman recovered from postpartum depression seeks to buy a horse she can afford, while her husband strongly opposes horse ownership.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How to Converse With Family Members You Disagree With

When December arrives, we may feel a familiar emotional cocktail of anticipation and anxiety. No one knows how to push our buttons like family. They were, after all, often the ones who put those buttons there in the first place. Political differences. Stubborn relational patterns. Topics that feel like landmines. Or the unspoken agreements to "just not go there," even when the elephant in the room is waving its trunk.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

Help! My Best Friend Is About to Ask Me to Be a Part of Her Wedding. I'm Honored. But There's a Problem With Her Evil Twin.

Maintain no-contact boundaries while honestly discussing expectations with the bride and offering support without sharing personal contact or accepting maid-of-honor duties if uncomfortable.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month ago

Dear Abby: I'm afraid of what my sister will do on moving day

Legal eviction gives Blanche eight months to relocate; consult an attorney, document property condition, and consider law enforcement presence when enforcing the eviction.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month ago

Dear Abby: I can't stand my dad's cringey pet names for his new wife

An adult child may set a boundary asking their father to stop using lovey-dovey nicknames for his new wife and use her name.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month ago

Miss Manners: The bride and groom are worth millions, but you wouldn't know it

Keeping score of gifts breeds resentment; prioritize graciousness, set personal boundaries, and avoid confronting relatives about perceived reciprocal obligations.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

I threw a potato. Mum brandished a knife would whole-family therapy save our Christmas?

Annual pre-Christmas family therapy aims to anticipate festive conflicts but often reveals entrenched tensions, awkward compromises, and performative attempts at harmony.
fromDefector
1 month ago

Who Can Imagine Why Anyone Would Want To Cut This Lovely Mom Out Of Her Life? | Defector

Laura Wellington is estranged from one of her adult daughters. The Connecticut 59-year-old is somewhat famous for this, in fact, or anyway famous for her response to it. Across Tiktok and Instagram, under the name "Doormat Mom," Wellington's railing against the supposed injustice done to her by a daughter she calls an "ungrateful little bastard" has brought her some 140,000 total followers.
Parenting
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

Tell Us The Most Toxic Thing A Family Member Has Done During The Holidays

Holiday family gatherings can be joyful but often produce toxic behaviors that disrupt celebrations and prompt people to share horror stories.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month ago

Harriette Cole: We just found out my sister's irresponsibility could cost us our house

Estate disputes and entrenched family conflicts can require legal action or difficult choices to protect property, finances, and emotional well-being.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Want to Invite My Sister, Her Guys, and Their Kids to Visit for the Holidays. But My Parents Have Issued a Big Threat.

A family hosts their polyamorous sister and her children despite parents' refusal to accept her relationship.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

Help! Our Grandmother Gave Us a Clear Rule for a Precious Family Heirloom. My Sister Violated It.

Prioritize repairing sibling relationships over an heirloom dress, forgiving careless actions unless they reflect an ongoing pattern of selfishness.
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

Help! My Twin Swears I'm Out to Get Her. Uh, All I Did Was Deny Her Very Bizarre Demand for My Eggs.

I had a learning disorder, and my sister would constantly correct people and say she wasn't the "stupid" one-I was. My sister started the college track in ninth grade while I went to a middling school. Our parents did their best to treat us equally and celebrate our accomplishments, but you really can't compare taking a beauty school test to getting a master's at 21.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month ago

Harriette Cole: A car crash wrecked my daughters' relationship

My older daughter got into a car accident while driving my younger daughter's car. The damage amounted to a few thousand dollars, and my older daughter did not want to pay for it. I offered to cover the expenses in hopes that it would settle the dust between them, but it didn't. My youngest feels that her sister should've at least offered to help cover the costs and accuses her sister of always being careless.
Parenting
Retirement
from24/7 Wall St.
1 month ago

Man With $8.5 Million Net Worth Faces Family Opposition to Early Retirement at Age 40

A 40-year-old with $8.5M net worth, a costly home, and rental income can likely retire near $10M, but faces family and religious objections to early retirement.
Real estate
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

It's still not OK, boomer: younger Americans are flailing and mad as hell

Young couples resist traditional wedding registries and cash gifts because they already have household goods and face unaffordable housing, delaying homeownership into their 40s.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

You don't need alcohol on Christmas Day. It may be far more enjoyable if you stay sober | The modern mind

Peter and I began by examining the gap between his fantasy of how Christmas should be celebrated and the reality of his actual Christmas celebrations in years past. Part of Peter's fantasy was that everyone in his family would get along well and have fun together on Christmas Day. The reality, however, was that his family invariably pick fights with each other, especially a few drinks in, and find fault with his cooking, his home and the way he is raising his young kids.
Mental health
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Mom Saw Something on My Phone That She Didn't Like. Her Response Has Been Horrible-and Hypocritical.

An 18-year-old faces reinstated parental phone restrictions and maternal disapproval of their gay sexuality and seeks to regain digital autonomy and confront bias.
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

23 Disney Guests Who Left Their Manners (And Common Sense) At Home

A large extended family cut into a Disneyland ride line, upsetting children; the upset family's husband confronted the grandmother in her language, silencing her.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Husband Isn't Thrilled Our Adult Son Moved Back in With Us-and He's Making It Everyone's Problem

A 30-year-old son living at home due to scarce, expensive housing has created household tension, conflicts, and safety risks, fueled by resentment and unmet expectations.
Miscellaneous
fromIndependent
1 month ago

Garda pleads guilty to punching his daughter in the face in 'most cruel' assault

Garda George Magdelina (43) punched his 21-year-old daughter in the face during an argument about the smell of food he was cooking.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month ago

Dear Abby: I've saved up for an exotic dream trip. Is it OK to go without my wife?

Negotiate respectful compromises for solo and shared travel while protecting mental health by limiting contact with verbally abusive family members.
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

This Holiday Host Is Charging Their Family To Attend Dinner, And People Have Many THOUGHTS

A family imposed a $100 minimum per household for a Thanksgiving potluck, prompting a family to refuse attendance after being publicly shamed about their income.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Volunteered to Host the Holidays This Year. One Guest's Outrageous Demands Have Me Tempted to Call It Off.

A host may reasonably refuse to accommodate unreasonable, controlling guest demands that require altering or cleaning the host's home and undermine household boundaries.
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

43 Vile, Monstrous, Unhinged, Boundary-Crossing In-Laws Who Need To Be Put In Their Place Right Now

It should have been a red flag when she walked up to the altar beside her son and said, 'You don't have to do this.' Eventually, he told her to sit, and we finished the wedding. She went through my drawers and complained to him about my pricey underwear, only to find out they had been a gift from him.
Relationships
fromVulture
1 month ago

The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Recap: Spilling Tea

They're still reeling from the failure of their business with Whitney blaming Justin for taking them down the MLM rabbit hole. She resents him and is mad at herself for trusting him. Part of the reason this show is a success is that the women at its center understand that the secret formula is brutal honesty. Whereas lesser Housewives try to present the best version of themselves and hide the embarrassing skeletons in their closets,
Television
#childcare
Parenting
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months ago

Dear Abby: I don't want kids, but then who will take care of me when I'm old?

Choosing to remain child-free requires personal financial and legal planning to secure care and support in old age.
#thanksgiving
fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago
Food & drink

36 People Who Completely Ruined Thanksgiving By Being Rude, Trashy, Or Just Totally Clueless

fromPsychology Today
2 months ago
Relationships

A Recipe for Getting Along on Thanksgiving

Anticipating negative family interactions can provoke behaviors that create self-fulfilling conflicts; acting warmly "as if" can disrupt that cycle and improve outcomes.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago
Mindfulness

How To Navigate Thanksgiving Stress Without Losing Your Mind

Control personal responses and regulate emotions to protect peace during Thanksgiving rather than attempting to change others.
fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago
Food & drink

36 People Who Completely Ruined Thanksgiving By Being Rude, Trashy, Or Just Totally Clueless

fromThe Nation
2 months ago

The Inexplicable Logic of Contact Sports

This, I learned, is known as a B'nei Mitzvah. Through a series of misadventures, it fell on the day of the Australian Rules Football (AFL) Grand Final, a day that is, in essence, the Australian equivalent of Super Bowl Sunday. I have three older brothers who all love the AFL, but it's my younger sister who is our family's most devoted fan.
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Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

While Staying at My Sister's, I Accidentally Opened a $300 Bottle of Wine. I'm Not Proud of What Happened Next.

Admit the accidental use and offer to replace the expensive bottle to preserve family trust and avoid long-term conflict.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

Help! My Girlfriend Gives Everyone in Her Life a Gift From the Same Place. My Family Is Insulted.

Value a partner's sincere, charitable gift choices; prioritize compatibility over offended relatives and redirect expectations or money when appropriate.
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months ago

Asking Eric: Because of the dispute about the dress, I skipped the wedding. Now the bride won't speak to me.

I told my goddaughter I would contribute $500 to the wedding dress. She picked out a dress without consulting me that cost nearly 10 times that much and sent me a picture of the receipts. She said she had heard that I would pay for all of the dress. Her mother got involved and it ended up a huge mess.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months ago

Asking Eric: My son has video of me in a drunken rage, but he won't show it to me

Now is not the time to see those videos. I don't think either of you is in the place to navigate the emotions they're going to dredge up. Moreover, if and when you do see them, that act needs to have a recovery-focused purpose. If they will help you make more specific amends or if he needs you to see something specific so that you can process together, that's one thing. But it doesn't sound like that's where either of you is at present.
Mental health
#elder-care
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

Help! I Accidentally Sent My Mother a Gift My Husband Was Going to Give Me ... in Private. Now We Might Have to Cancel Christmas.

An apology from the husband won't resolve the mother's entrenched hostility; prioritize setting boundaries or avoiding holiday contact instead.
fromIndependent
2 months ago

Woman told her sister three weeks before she was killed she would have to let murder accused son 'go'

A woman told her sister three weeks before she was killed that she would have to let her murder accused son "go", but the deceased "didn't want to hear it", a jury has heard.
Law
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

The Entire Family Has Officially Banned My Sister's Stepdaughters. They Deserve It.

Two stepdaughters' persistent bullying and an absent father's lack of discipline led the family to ban them, causing conflict with their mother.
Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago

17 People Who Were Raised By "Karens" Reveal Their Parents' Most Entitled Public Meltdowns

Entitled parents publicly humiliate others through selfish, dramatic, and petty behaviors that prioritize their wants over others' dignity.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

Bride "Furious" After Sister Refused To Attend Her Child-Free Wedding

A parent declined a sister-in-law's child-free destination wedding because no childcare existed and refusing to leave their one-year-old alone took precedence.
fromLos Angeles Times
2 months ago

Meet Alemeda, a daring new voice of Gen Z rock

we got into a huge fight - stuff that had just built up till that moment - and I was like, 'You Know what? I'm leaving.' Then she did this weird thing where she called the cops on me but also changed the locks and moved to Africa.
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