#existential-fears

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Arts
fromHyperallergic
23 hours ago

The Unbearable Strangeness of Being

Cinga Samson's paintings evoke a haunting, incomprehensible world reflecting historical scars and spiritual alertness through unsettling imagery.
#success
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

The Hidden Cost of Success

Success can lead to self-abandonment when internal signals are overridden, resulting in a disconnection from oneself despite external achievements.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago
Careers

I'm 66 and I finally realized that I've spent my entire adult life chasing a version of success that my father defined in dollar amounts and job titles - and the reason I feel so empty now isn't because I failed, it's because I succeeded at building someone else's dream and called it mine - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago
Mindfulness

I'm 37 and I realized last month that I've spent my entire adult life collecting achievements to outrun a feeling I can't name - and I genuinely have everything I was told to want versus feeling anything close to what I was promised it would feel like - Silicon Canals

Success can become an addictive trap that fails to deliver true fulfillment, leading to a cycle of chasing achievements without satisfaction.
fromFast Company
6 days ago
Psychology

Why your successful life doesn't leave you fulfilled

Success is subjective; many feel unfulfilled despite achievements due to societal comparisons and not pursuing personal desires.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

The Hidden Cost of Success

Success can lead to self-abandonment when internal signals are overridden, resulting in a disconnection from oneself despite external achievements.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I finally realized that I've spent my entire adult life chasing a version of success that my father defined in dollar amounts and job titles - and the reason I feel so empty now isn't because I failed, it's because I succeeded at building someone else's dream and called it mine - Silicon Canals

Chasing someone else's definition of success leads to emptiness and unfulfillment.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized last month that I've spent my entire adult life collecting achievements to outrun a feeling I can't name - and I genuinely have everything I was told to want versus feeling anything close to what I was promised it would feel like - Silicon Canals

Success can become an addictive trap that fails to deliver true fulfillment, leading to a cycle of chasing achievements without satisfaction.
Psychology
fromFast Company
6 days ago

Why your successful life doesn't leave you fulfilled

Success is subjective; many feel unfulfilled despite achievements due to societal comparisons and not pursuing personal desires.
#loneliness
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours ago

Psychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals

Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a certain kind of loneliness that only hits after 60 - not the loneliness of being alone, but the loneliness of being with people who love the person you've always been and have no idea who you're becoming - Silicon Canals

Loneliness after sixty stems from being surrounded by people who see an outdated version of oneself, not from physical absence.
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago
Writing

I'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals

Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours ago

Psychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals

Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a certain kind of loneliness that only hits after 60 - not the loneliness of being alone, but the loneliness of being with people who love the person you've always been and have no idea who you're becoming - Silicon Canals

Loneliness after sixty stems from being surrounded by people who see an outdated version of oneself, not from physical absence.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can stem from feeling unnecessary, not just from being alone.
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

The emptiness many people feel after 70 isn't the absence of purpose - it's the absence of an audience, and those are completely different problems with completely different solutions - Silicon Canals

Retirement often leads to a loss of audience, not purpose, causing feelings of uselessness among retirees.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the grief that follows retirement isn't about losing your job - it's about the self that only existed inside the job, the one who was competent and needed and clearly defined, and that self doesn't retire when you do, it simply loses the only environment that was ever capable of calling it into existence - Silicon Canals

Retirement challenges identity, as losing a job often means losing a coherent sense of self.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals

Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

The emptiness many people feel after 70 isn't the absence of purpose - it's the absence of an audience, and those are completely different problems with completely different solutions - Silicon Canals

Retirement often leads to a loss of audience, not purpose, causing feelings of uselessness among retirees.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the grief that follows retirement isn't about losing your job - it's about the self that only existed inside the job, the one who was competent and needed and clearly defined, and that self doesn't retire when you do, it simply loses the only environment that was ever capable of calling it into existence - Silicon Canals

Retirement challenges identity, as losing a job often means losing a coherent sense of self.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals

Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
#happiness
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology suggests the adults most likely to spend their 60s and 70s in genuine contentment aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped the earliest needing their life to mean something to anyone else, and that stopping, whenever it happened and for whatever reason, was the first day the actual life began - Silicon Canals

Happiness comes from being true to oneself rather than seeking validation from others.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The happiest older adults aren't optimists - they're realists who stopped arguing with reality - Silicon Canals

Happiness in older adults stems from acceptance of reality rather than constant positivity or optimism.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

There's a specific type of unhappiness that belongs to people who did everything right - the right degree, the stable marriage, the good job - and still wake up feeling like they're living someone else's life - Silicon Canals

Chasing external validation often leads to a sense of emptiness despite achieving societal markers of success.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology suggests the adults most likely to spend their 60s and 70s in genuine contentment aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped the earliest needing their life to mean something to anyone else, and that stopping, whenever it happened and for whatever reason, was the first day the actual life began - Silicon Canals

Happiness comes from being true to oneself rather than seeking validation from others.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The happiest older adults aren't optimists - they're realists who stopped arguing with reality - Silicon Canals

Happiness in older adults stems from acceptance of reality rather than constant positivity or optimism.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

There's a specific type of unhappiness that belongs to people who did everything right - the right degree, the stable marriage, the good job - and still wake up feeling like they're living someone else's life - Silicon Canals

Chasing external validation often leads to a sense of emptiness despite achieving societal markers of success.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour ago

Psychology suggests people who become difficult to be around with age are almost always carrying an unprocessed grief - for the life they expected and didn't get, for the recognition they believed they had earned and never received, for the version of themselves they were supposed to become - and the difficulty is what that grief sounds like when it has been stored as resentment for long enough to become the way they experience everything - Silicon Canals

Unprocessed grief can manifest as bitterness and negativity, stemming from unfulfilled dreams and unmet expectations in life.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the people who look back at the end of their lives with the least regret aren't the ones who made the fewest mistakes - they're the ones who were most fully present for the life they were actually living, who didn't spend it waiting for a better version to begin, who loved the people in front of them rather than the idea of people, and who understood, early enough to act on it, that this was always the whole thing and there was never going to be another one - Silicon Canals

Presence, not perfection, leads to a life without regret at the end.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours ago

I was always the reliable one - the one who showed up, remembered, rearranged, and absorbed - and it took me until 58 to wonder whether anyone would have come looking if I'd stopped - Silicon Canals

Being the reliable one can lead to personal neglect and invisibility in relationships.
OMG science
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Would Confirming the Existence of Aliens Shock Humanity?

President Trump ordered the release of UAP-related government files, potentially revealing evidence of nonhuman intelligence and impacting human understanding of reality.
#solitude
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours ago

Psychology says people who genuinely enjoy being alone aren't missing the need for connection - they've located the one condition under which their full self is available, and that condition happens to require an empty room, and there is nothing wrong with that except that the world was not designed with them in mind and has been making them feel guilty about it ever since - Silicon Canals

Society often mislabels the need for solitude as a deficiency, while those who recharge alone are more emotionally stable and focused.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours ago

Psychology says people who genuinely enjoy being alone aren't missing the need for connection - they've located the one condition under which their full self is available, and that condition happens to require an empty room, and there is nothing wrong with that except that the world was not designed with them in mind and has been making them feel guilty about it ever since - Silicon Canals

Society often mislabels the need for solitude as a deficiency, while those who recharge alone are more emotionally stable and focused.
Humor
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who laugh hardest at their own pain aren't resilient. They learned early that if they set the tone for how their suffering was received, nobody else could decide it was worse than they were prepared to admit. The humor isn't processing. It's perimeter control. - Silicon Canals

Humor can mask emotional pain, allowing individuals to control perceptions rather than genuinely cope with distress.
Design
fromDesign Milk
4 days ago

OUTSIDERS Investigates the Space Between Society and Solitude

Modern design challenges conventional public seating to enhance social interaction and presence in urban spaces.
Artificial intelligence
fromBusiness Insider
5 days ago

How AI could destroy - or save - humanity, according to former AI insiders

Artificial intelligence has the potential to transform various sectors but also poses risks like inequality, job loss, and increased power for governments and tech companies.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
6 hours ago

What About Knowledge That No Longer Knows What It Is For?

Knowledge and education have become distorted by managerial frameworks, leading to a superficial understanding of their true purpose and value.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours ago

Psychology says the adults who seem the most indifferent aren't cynics - they've simply been disappointed so many times that their nervous system reclassified hope as a threat - Silicon Canals

Indifference may stem from a nervous system response to past trauma, where hope becomes associated with pain and disappointment.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I have no close friends and I do not say that as a confession or a complaint - I say it as the most accurate thing I know about my life right now, and I am trying to hold it with honesty rather than explanation, and some days the honesty is enough and some days it is the loneliest sentence I know how to say - Silicon Canals

Not having close friends can lead to freedom and clarity rather than feelings of failure.
Cancer
fromIndependent
1 week ago

'Writing allows me to face what is happening now. And what is happening now is that I'm dying'

Gabriel Rosenstock faces mortality with peace, relying on poetry and philosophy for support during his battle with terminal cancer.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years being extremely good at my job and last spring I realized I had optimized my entire existence for the approval of people I didn't particularly like - Silicon Canals

Professional dedication can sometimes mask a deeper need for approval from others, leading to personal sacrifices and a loss of self-identity.
fromPhilosophynow
6 days ago

What do I have to fear, have I ever diminished by dying?

What do I have to fear, have I ever diminished by dying? I died as lifeless matter and became growing vegetation, then I died as a plant and reached animality. I died as an animal and became human.
#aging
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
46 minutes ago

Psychology says people who describe their 70s as the best years of their life aren't looking back through a nostalgic filter - they've simply reached the age at which the things that were costing them the most have expired, and what remains when the performance obligations, the career pressure, and the need for approval all fall away at once is frequently the first honest version of a person's life they have ever been able to live - Silicon Canals

Older adults often experience increased life satisfaction as they shed psychological attachments that previously defined their identity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
46 minutes ago

Psychology says people who describe their 70s as the best years of their life aren't looking back through a nostalgic filter - they've simply reached the age at which the things that were costing them the most have expired, and what remains when the performance obligations, the career pressure, and the need for approval all fall away at once is frequently the first honest version of a person's life they have ever been able to live - Silicon Canals

Older adults often experience increased life satisfaction as they shed psychological attachments that previously defined their identity.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Should You 'Rage Against the Dying of the Light'?

Fighting against death can be noble but may lead to futility and emotional strain, while acceptance offers liberation and wisdom.
#existential-psychology
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

Understanding Existential Psychology in a Global Context

Existential psychology was first labeled in the West but does not belong to the West; cultural humility and global dialogue are essential for advancing existential therapy across diverse contexts.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

Understanding Existential Psychology in a Global Context

Existential psychology was first labeled in the West but does not belong to the West; cultural humility and global dialogue are essential for advancing existential therapy across diverse contexts.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Stop Pretending to Be Happy

Emotional acceptance leads to healthier processing of feelings, while suppression prolongs negative emotions and creates incongruence between feelings and expressions.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who crave both complete freedom and deep companionship aren't confused - they're experiencing the central tension of the human condition, and the people who resolve it aren't the ones who choose a side but the ones who stop treating it like a choice - Silicon Canals

The autonomy-connection paradox highlights the human need for both independence and intimacy in relationships.
Writing
fromVulture
4 days ago

Camus's The Stranger, It Turns Out, Is Still Relevant

The adaptation of The Stranger emphasizes Meursault's passive nature and the racial implications of his actions, adding depth to the original narrative.
#identity
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals

Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals

Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals

Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals

Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
#mental-health
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who feel a persistent low-level sadness they cannot attribute to any specific cause aren't depressed in the clinical sense - they're experiencing the accurate emotional response to a life that has drifted, incrementally and without announcement, away from the one they meant to live, and the sadness is not a symptom, it is a signal, and signals are not treated, they are followed - Silicon Canals

Low-grade melancholy may signal a disconnect between current life and expectations, rather than being a symptom of depression.
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago
Writing

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

People who are quietly unhappy with life don't always look unhappy - they look tired, they look busy, they look like they're managing, and the managing is the performance and the performance is the problem and the problem is invisible to everyone who mistakes a well-maintained surface for evidence of what's underneath it - Silicon Canals

Quiet unhappiness manifests as chronic exhaustion and the performance of being okay, often disguised by busyness and emotional labor.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who feel a persistent low-level sadness they cannot attribute to any specific cause aren't depressed in the clinical sense - they're experiencing the accurate emotional response to a life that has drifted, incrementally and without announcement, away from the one they meant to live, and the sadness is not a symptom, it is a signal, and signals are not treated, they are followed - Silicon Canals

Low-grade melancholy may signal a disconnect between current life and expectations, rather than being a symptom of depression.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

People who are quietly unhappy with life don't always look unhappy - they look tired, they look busy, they look like they're managing, and the managing is the performance and the performance is the problem and the problem is invisible to everyone who mistakes a well-maintained surface for evidence of what's underneath it - Silicon Canals

Quiet unhappiness manifests as chronic exhaustion and the performance of being okay, often disguised by busyness and emotional labor.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the most emotionally strong people aren't the ones who never fall apart - they're the ones who fall apart privately, reassemble without fanfare, and never use their recovery as a reason for anyone else to feel guilty - Silicon Canals

Emotional strength involves acknowledging feelings and recovering privately, not denying vulnerability or pretending to be unbreakable.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals

Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the reason older people stop caring isn't emotional withdrawal - it's that they've finally learned to distinguish between what actually matters and what they were only caring about out of social obligation - Silicon Canals

Older individuals prioritize emotional connections over superficial relationships as they age, focusing on what truly matters in their lives.
fromPhilosophynow
6 days ago

Life Sacrifice

The widespread practice of showing the Eid Al Adha slaughtering to children can desensitize them to violence, as many families take pride in this tradition.
Philosophy
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There is a version of grief that only people in their forties understand. It's not for someone who died. It's for the life you were quietly building in your head for twenty years that you now realize was never going to happen, and the mourning has no name because the thing you lost never existed outside your own planning. - Silicon Canals

Midlife reckoning involves mourning an imagined life that never existed, rather than regret for choices made.
#philosophy
Philosophy
fromPhilosophynow
6 days ago

Philosophers on Skiing

Philosophers occasionally write about unconventional topics like buildings, food, and winter sports, expanding their focus beyond traditional themes.
Philosophy
fromPhilosophynow
6 days ago

Philosophers on Skiing

Philosophers occasionally write about unconventional topics like buildings, food, and winter sports, expanding their focus beyond traditional themes.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals

Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.
Books
fromThe Atlantic
1 month ago

An Uncomfortable Emotion That's Worth Feeling

Boredom teaches valuable lessons about human insignificance and connects to a meaningful life when embraced rather than avoided.
fromOregon ArtsWatch * Arts & Culture News
5 days ago

FilmWatch Weekly: Camus' 'The Stranger' on screen, Christian Petzold's 'Miroirs No. 3,' and more * Oregon ArtsWatch

François Ozon's adaptation of The Stranger, while visually stunning, reveals the limitations of cinema in depicting the complex inner states of consciousness that Camus masterfully crafted in his text.
Writing
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals

Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
fromPhilosophynow
6 days ago

The Mirror & the Flame

Attar's 'Conference of the Birds' follows a flock of souls seeking the Simorgh, symbolizing the Divine, through seven valleys, ultimately revealing the Divine as a reflection of the self in relation with others.
Philosophy
#burnout
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals

Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There's a specific kind of tiredness that belongs to people who spent their entire twenties building a life they thought they wanted, only to reach their thirties and realize they were building someone else's blueprint from memory. - Silicon Canals

Burnout often stems from committing to the wrong pursuits rather than simply overworking.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals

Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There's a specific kind of tiredness that belongs to people who spent their entire twenties building a life they thought they wanted, only to reach their thirties and realize they were building someone else's blueprint from memory. - Silicon Canals

Burnout often stems from committing to the wrong pursuits rather than simply overworking.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

What Is Existential Psychology?

In particular, I have a fascination with one-hit wonders, songwriters who at some point inexplicably produced a morsel of unequivocal genius, a sonic masterpiece, like a portal into an unknown universe... three to five timeless minutes that hover with esoteric intelligence as if heaven itself reached down and caressed a human voice... a song that brushes close enough to the divine to leave us believing in a force greater than our flesh and bones.
Music production
#self-worth
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says if you want your 70s to be the best years of your life you have to stop doing something most people don't quit until it's too late - and the quitting isn't dramatic, it's just the daily decision to stop measuring yourself by a standard that was always someone else's and never actually yours - Silicon Canals

Measuring worth by external standards leads to dissatisfaction; true value comes from personal fulfillment, not societal expectations.
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago
Psychology

I'm 37 and I realized last year that I've been measuring my worth by how useful I am to people - and I genuinely don't know who I am when no one needs me - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says if you want your 70s to be the best years of your life you have to stop doing something most people don't quit until it's too late - and the quitting isn't dramatic, it's just the daily decision to stop measuring yourself by a standard that was always someone else's and never actually yours - Silicon Canals

Measuring worth by external standards leads to dissatisfaction; true value comes from personal fulfillment, not societal expectations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I realized last year that I've been measuring my worth by how useful I am to people - and I genuinely don't know who I am when no one needs me - Silicon Canals

Identity can be heavily tied to being useful to others, leading to a crisis when that role is absent.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Invisible Game: Jordan's Negative Space and Jung's Shadow

Michael Jordan and Carl Jung both emphasize the importance of recognizing overlooked spaces for extraordinary performance and deeper self-understanding.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals

Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Science
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

What Is Life?

Life's definition remains scientifically elusive, with origin theories suggesting asteroids triggered chemical cascades enabling self-organizing molecules to develop memory, agency, and consciousness from inert matter.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

Talking About Death: The Depth of the Meaning of Life

Death is a certain aspect of life that is often uncomfortable to discuss, yet it shapes our relationships and understanding of existence.
Philosophy
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

I don't know what God is. But the search keeps me grounded and feeling alive | Karen Rinaldi

Finding God amidst uncertainty can be a grounding practice during challenging times.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

You know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals

Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Some people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals

The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Beyond Suspicion: Why We Doubt Greatness-and What It Says About Us

Mental mastery and team trust are crucial for success in cycling, transcending past performance and skepticism.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

The Atheist's Guide to Surviving End Times

Non-religious people experience apocalyptic anxiety from modern crises despite disbelieving End Times prophecy, requiring meaning-making through psychological and social resources rather than faith.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Psychology says the smartest people in life tend to be the loneliest - not because intelligence isolates, but because a mind built for depth finds it genuinely difficult to feel at home in a world that mostly runs on the surface - Silicon Canals

Higher intelligence may lead to decreased life satisfaction with increased social interaction due to a preference for meaningful connections.
Film
fromThe Walrus
2 months ago

How Should We Live in These Wildly Uncertain Times? | The Walrus

David Blaine revitalizes magic through high-risk, astonishing performances that blend traditional sleight-of-hand with extreme endurance stunts, provoking awe and intense public fascination.
fromNature
1 month ago

'What are we doing here?' The polymaths who searched for the meaning of life

A mentor once told me that, when writing a research statement for a professorship, I had to start with the most ambitious pitch I could imagine - and then go ten times bigger. It's tricky enough to do this as a cosmologist, given that the topic of study is the entire Universe. But there is a quest that is more ambitious still: to find out 'what are we doing here?'
Books
fromThe Conversation
1 month ago

Today's obsession with authenticity isn't new - being true to yourself has troubled philosophers for centuries

All of us live in an age where we're bombarded by social media and artificial intelligence - when striving to be your authentic self becomes an increasingly difficult task. Yet, even if it has somehow become a common goal, it is unclear how many of us can truly define the "authenticity" that we say we are pursuing.
Philosophy
fromThe Nation
2 months ago

Fear of Nothing

February 2026 issue.When I was a child I was terrifiedof the space between One and Zero vast as the ages before my birthstrait as my death-late at night I heard my parents arguinglovingly in their locked room, the angora cat coming homewith a sparrow in her mouth, and the raindrops on the shinglescounting themselves-how to sleep, how to cross the empty placebetween the name "sparrow" and that limp thing crying,adamant, creating me with its cry
Writing
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

Move over stoics! Why we should all embrace nihilism and discover what really matters in life | Gemma Parker

I was suspicious, even cynical, about what the world insisted was vital to the life of my unborn child. I was partly sceptical because so much of the advice I was getting was contradictory. But I was also suspicious because I'd spent most of my 20s reading Nietzsche. Nietzsche is not, perhaps, a natural choice for a young mother. But he helps to fuel certain questions about values, and purpose, that are central to questions of care.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Every Day You Get Closer to Your Death

Every day you get closer to your death. This is the phrase that shook me to my core when my high school teacher, Mr. Murphy, presented it in Religious Knowledge class. I was 14 years old. I immediately objected, calling it depressive in an attempt to protect my classmates-or perhaps myself. He looked straight at me and said, "It is simply the truth. Take it as you wish."
Mindfulness
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
1 month ago

An existentialist philosopher on why we should not let fear dictate love

Love can operate as a comforting illusion promising wholeness, while existentialism locates human incompleteness in thrownness and the responsibility to create meaning.
#meaning
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How the Search for Meaning Helps and Hurts Us

I write this post with a clear but demanding purpose. I aim to apply insights from animal behavior research to gain a deeper understanding of how humans behave, struggle, and adapt. As a clinical psychologist, much of my work centers on two closely related questions. Why do people do what they do? And why is changing what does not work for them so often more difficult than it appears?
Mental health
fromApaonline
2 months ago

Philosophy, Technology, and Mortality

This APA Blog series has broadly explored philosophy and technology with a throughline on the influence of technology and AI on well-being. This month's post brings those themes into focus recounting a vital Washington Post Opinion piece by friend of the APA Blog, Samuel Kimbriel. Samuel is the founding director of the Aspen Institute's Philosophy and Society Initiative and Editor at Large for Wisdom of Crowds. We collaborated on a Substack Newsletter about intellectual ambition, building on his essay, Thinking is Risky.
Philosophy
Philosophy
fromThe New Yorker
2 months ago

Is Life a Game?

Play—self-directed, intrinsically scored activity—provides meaning by resisting external metrics and preventing value capture from ranking, quantification, and instrumental evaluation.
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