Parenting
fromPsychology Today
4 days agoNot Just Helicopter Parenting: When Balance Is Lost
Intensive parenting crowds a child’s developmental space by disrupting the balance between connection and separateness.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoIf you apologize when someone bumps into you on the street, hold the door for 30 seconds longer than necessary, and thank bus drivers twice - psychology says these 7 patterns are running simultaneously, and the over-courtesy is a map of every interaction where you were made to feel like an inconvenience - Silicon Canals
Excessive apologizing and over-thanking stem from learned beliefs that one's existence inconveniences others, rooted in childhood experiences of being made to feel like too much.
fromScary Mommy
2 months agoWhat Is "Grey Rocking" & When Should You Use It? Experts Share Examples
The idea is simple: make yourself as uninteresting as a grey rock. No emotional reaction, no personal information shared, no visible changes in your demeanor. It's an intentional reduction of emotion. You respond briefly, neutrally, and without giving the other person something to hook onto. It's not about being cold; it's about being boring enough to be safe.
Relationships
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoThe quiet power of people who stopped explaining themselves - Silicon Canals
Chronic over-explaining stems from trauma responses and exhaustion, leading to a transformative moment when people stop justifying their decisions to those incapable of understanding them.
fromTiny Buddha
2 months agoHow to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed by Other People's Strong Emotions - Tiny Buddha
Some years ago, I was talking to my husband on the phone. He sounded annoyed about something to do with his work, but I noticed an intense emotional reaction in myself. Immediately, my heart contracted and my stomach lurched. I could feel a runaway train of emotions activate within me. My whole body was awash with nausea, and I felt so very uncomfortable.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
5 months agoHow to Recognize and Reduce 'Empathic Personal Distress'
Beth's capacity for empathy serves her well with her husband, James, as well as in other relationships. Others experience her as a good listener and often seek her out to share their stress. However, these conversations often leave Beth feeling anxious and distraught, even though she may not recognize the source of her discomfort. At other times, she is able to recognize and admit that her tension is related to feeling overwhelmed by others' suffering.
Psychology
fromIndependent
6 months agoAsking for a friend: 'My partner refuses to back down or compromise when we argue and it's making me feel hurt and frustrated. Is this normal behaviour - am I overreacting?
Q: I've been dating this guy for a couple of months now, and it's mostly going great. However, whenever we have a disagreement or an argument, it goes pear-shaped. It seems like he just says the opposite of what I say just to wind me up, and he refuses to back down or compromise. Sometimes it happens in bigger conversations like politics, but often it's smaller things and I don't know why he finds them to be such a big deal. I'm left feeling frustrated and hurt.
Relationships
Tech industry
fromBusiness Insider
6 months agoMeta's CTO explains why you should treat your relationships like investments
Allocate emotional investment like a financial portfolio: concentrate in core relationships, diversify across acquaintances, and avoid granting emotional equity to unearned influences.
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
7 months agoThis Millennial Just Shared That Our Parents Are "One Stupidly Spoken Thing Away" From Never Seeing Us Again,
Repeated parental disrespect prompted low-contact boundaries, ongoing frustration, and the need to protect emotional well-being despite love for the parents.
fromBustle
7 months agoYour October Tarot Reading
October is here like a comforting sip of spiced cider. Every month, I ask my tarot deck, "What do we need to know?" In the weeks ahead, you're learning what empowerment feels like. This five-card spread I created represents... Energy: Your vibe right now. Situation: What's happening around you. Obstacle: A struggle you're facing. Action: What to do about it. Lesson: What you'll learn from this.
Mindfulness
fromwww.mercurynews.com
9 months agoDear Abby: My co-worker thinks I'm mad at him. In reality, I have a raging crush.
Developing a crush on a co-worker can be distracting and inappropriate, especially when both individuals are married. It's important to maintain professionalism in the workplace. Keeping emotional distance can prevent complications in a career.
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
9 months agoDear Abby: Their kids and the baby are ruining our bar time
Poll the other members of your group about how they feel about the younger adults and the baby being with you. You may discover you are not the only ones who aren't comfortable with it. If that's the case, then someone is going to have to speak up and object.
Relationships
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
10 months agoAsking Eric: We didn't have a fight but I haven't seen my boyfriend in 8 months
Long-distance communication with no in-person meetings can indicate deeper relational issues.
Setting boundaries in relationships can feel like rejections, impacting connection.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
10 months agoLow Contact: A Gentler Path When Estrangement Feels Too Big
Low contact enables emotional distance without total estrangement.
Boundaries are essential for mental and emotional health.
Low contact is adaptable to changing needs.
It's a subtle way to create distance without breaking ties.
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