Lately, I've noticed many silver-haired couples walking hand-in-hand down sidewalks, along boardwalks, and following trails. Most seem to have a lilt in their steps and sparkly eyes, almost like they're in love. I hope they are. I am. After three plus decades of marriage and five years of post- divorce online dating, I, too, feel a lightness and sparkle. It's seeped into my being over the past five years, and I'm more than a little goo-goo.
Repeat. Your wife is not asking you to drive around with her human anatomy-resembling art plastered to your back windshield for the world to see. This is your home! The reaction of your family-whispering, "Are you aware of the resemblance?" not screaming, "Oh my god, there's a butthole over the fireplace!"-actually proves that her artistic intention was clear. It's a flower with some unfortunate qualities. Nobody actually thinks you have pornography hanging above the mantel.
For Love & Money is a column from Business Insider answering your relationship and money questions. This week, a reader no longer wants to sell her starter home, as she and her husband had once agreed upon. Our columnist reminds her that it's not about who gets their way - it's about sharing a life they love. Dear For Love & Money,
"Not really. I think the things that you don't like you just have to either compromise on and realize that, like, no guys are perfect, so are you willing to sacrifice? No guys are perfect, so what are you willing to compromise on?"
For cross-cultural marriages, traditions from both backgrounds often dictate aspects such as wedding ceremonies, gender roles, career ambitions, and family dynamics. As a result, couples frequently navigate differences in expectations and traditions to foster their foundation. This blending of traditions necessitates ongoing negotiation and compromise. Partners learn to recognize which aspects of their respective cultures are most meaningful and decide together how to integrate (or adapt) them within their shared lives.
Dear Eric: My mother-in-law, Dana, 79, was married for 51 years before her husband passed six years ago. She visits us frequently. When she does, she stays at our house or with one of my husband's sisters. Within the last six months, Dana began dating a senior gentleman, Peter. Apparently, they knew each other in high school and recently reconnected. As of this writing, only the two sisters have met Peter.
Jake and Alma had yet another argument about money-budgets, who was spending what-but, like the others, it led to nowhere productive. But for other couples, it might not be about money but sex, or children's bedtimes. What they all have in common is that problems are not being resolved. This, unfortunately, is a common problem and pattern that, over time, can erode the relationship. These unsolved problems act as landmines that everyone learns to walk around, but which create an atmosphere of ongoing tension.
