The writer grapples with feelings of shame after a sexual encounter with a local in Costa Rica while in a non-exclusive relationship back home. She questions whether this shame is a product of societal slut-shaming or a personal moral conflict. The advice suggests that her feelings stem from expectations she created around the encounter, mistaking it for a deeper connection, which was ultimately dismissed by the partner's actions afterward. The interaction highlights the complexity of sexual experiences intertwined with emotional expectations.
You convinced yourself that if circumstances were different - if you were single, if you lived in Costa Rica - you could see yourself dating this guy.
Your reaction is rooted in a sense of being used and the societal pressures surrounding sexual encounters, not necessarily a reflection of shame about your actions.
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