Discernment counseling specifically assists 'mixed-agenda couples,' where one partner aims to salvage the relationship and the other contemplates separation. Unlike traditional couples therapy, it provides a structured process to explore safety and ambivalence without rushing to resolve feelings. The couples can reflect on three distinct paths: continuing the relationship as is, opting for separation, or committing to a temporary period of therapy. Early introduction of full-fledged therapy can be detrimental, often leading to high dropout rates as partners may not be equally invested in the relationship.
Relationship therapist Dr. William Doherty identifies 'mixed-agenda couples' as those in which one partner is seeking to save the relationship while the other considers separation. Traditional couple therapy is ineffective for these couples, as one partner may be emotionally disengaged, leading to high dropout rates in therapy. These couples often require discernment counseling, which provides a structured process to explore three potential paths: maintaining the status quo, separation, or a six-month commitment to therapy.
Discernment counseling prioritizes safety for partners to explore ambivalence without the pressure to save the relationship too quickly. It creates a space for reflection and informed decision-making, enabling couples to evaluate their situations thoughtfully.
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