I've been with my partner for years and I only just realized that every time I said "let's be rational" during an argument, what they heard was "your feelings don't matter" - and that's what's been quietly pushing us apart - Silicon Canals

"According to psychologist Dr. John Gottman's extensive studies on relationships, dismissing or minimizing a partner's emotions is one of the key predictors of relationship breakdown."

"Every time I asked my partner to 'be rational' or 'look at this logically,' what I thought I was doing was steering us toward a solution."

"That was me. I'd walk away from discussions feeling like I'd made my point clearly, not realizing my partner walked away feeling unheard and diminished."

Dismissing a partner's emotions in favor of rationality can damage relationships. When one partner urges the other to be rational, it often conveys that their feelings are invalid. Research indicates that minimizing emotions is a predictor of relationship breakdown. Many individuals default to logic during conflicts, believing it leads to resolution, but this approach can leave partners feeling unheard. Understanding the impact of emotional validation is crucial for healthier communication and relationship dynamics.

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