"“Girl if you don't start being mean AF to that man.” OP's entire rant focused on how much empathy so many wives have for their husbands, and that “we have swung too far.” “Doesn't matter how many hours he works - he would still need to work if he didn't have kids,” OP wrote. “Stop trying to be a cool wife and call him out on his bullshit. Be comfortable saying 'no you can't go'. Motherhood is already hard enough without all that.”"
"“I'm 2 hours postpartum and my husband wants to take a trip with his buddies.” “I haven't taken a shower /washed my hair in two weeks because of my baby, but my husband goes out every night.” “I just delivered a baby, but my husband might be more tired than I am because he slept on the couch in the room.” “Husband plays 18 holes of golf every Saturday and I haven't gone out by myself in two years.”"
"“In theory, saying ‘No, you can't go’ doesn't sound like it would be that hard to do to your husband - but I think all of us get trapped in that ‘cool wife’ ideal. None of us wants to feel like we struggle with the kids when our spouse isn't there, none of us wants to make our partner unhappy”"
Complaints about partners can be difficult to hear, especially when they involve men making women feel unheard or unappreciated. A mother shared advice for wives who frequently vent about their husbands: be “meaner” and more direct. Examples include husbands wanting trips with buddies shortly after childbirth, husbands going out while wives cannot shower, husbands sleeping on the couch while wives deliver babies, and husbands playing golf regularly while wives have not gone out alone for years. The guidance emphasizes that empathy should not excuse unfairness, and that work and responsibilities do not disappear because children exist. It also encourages wives to stop trying to be “cool” and to say “no” when needed.
Read at Scary Mommy
Unable to calculate read time
Collection
[
|
...
]