A widow faces a dilemma regarding whether to inform her late husband's estranged mother of his death, respecting his final wishes. The advice suggests it is reasonable to uphold his request, noting that she is likely to hear the news from another source eventually. Another individual with sensory sensitivity struggles with discomfort from a friend's post-cycling smell and contemplates addressing the issue without offending her friend. The complexity of personal boundaries and sensitivities is highlighted in both situations.
One thing that makes this easy is that she'll almost certainly hear the news from someone else first. If she somehow doesn't, and if she calls and asks to speak to him, that's when you tell her that he died. It was reasonable for your husband to ask you not to reach out to his mom, but to pretend that his phone is acting up or he's napping or just stepped out for the rest of your life is too much.
The issue is that I've come to dread when she cycles to meet me. Summer is short here and asking her to stop cycling to see me seems rude. Waiting for her to cool down doesn't solve the smell issue, and asking her to carry deodorant and a change of bra/shirt feels unbearably rude, even if I make it clear that it's a me issue.
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