"It happened again the other day. A friend of mine who keeps reaching out to tell me how busy she is, but would love to get together, sent me the same text she's been sending for the past six months. I'd be lying if I said it wasn't getting to me. While I understand life gets in the way, and people get busy, I also know something else: We make time for the things that are important to us."
"The two of us used to get together regularly. She was busy then, but she wasn't too busy. So when I noticed the shift and she could no longer get together when I'd ask to see her, I gave her some space and told her to let me know when she had some time. Since then, I've gotten at least 10 messages about her busy schedule and how sorry she is that she doesn't have time. And now, it's not sitting well with me."
"I can't help but wonder if something else is going on. Maybe she's going through something hard in her life and she doesn't feel comfortable talking about it. I have asked her and reminded her I'm always here, and she tells me all is well. I've wondered if I've done something and she is no longer interested in having a friendship. Maybe she feels like we've grown apart."
A friend repeatedly sends the same apology texts saying she is too busy to meet, creating a pattern over months. The repeated messages come across as excuses rather than genuine intent to reconnect, producing hurt and frustration. The recipient gave the friend space and offered to wait until time was available, but the pattern persisted with frequent apologies and no actual plans. The recipient wonders whether personal struggles, loss of interest, or growing apart explain the distance, and has invited honesty. The ongoing cycle feels disingenuous and prompts a desire for clearer communication, actual effort, or boundaries.
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