The article reflects on the complex nature of past relationships and the tendency to romanticize them. The author shares personal experiences of nostalgia for former partners who ultimately led troubled lives. They highlight the importance of recognizing that a relationship is good if it persists, suggesting that clinging to idealized memories can obscure the reality of why a relationship ended. Ultimately, the author emphasizes the benefits of moving forward and cherishing the positive aspects of current relationships while acknowledging the bittersweet nature of choices made in love.
If it was a good relationship for you both, you'd still be in it. Of the ones I pined for over the years, one turned into a hard-core fundamentalist Christian who belittles anyone different from him and moved to a remote location to get away from the influences of 'evil' society. The other became a rage-filled alcoholic who eventually couldn't hold down a job and shot his wife, killing her, for wanting a divorce. Yeah. I had been hung up on fantasy, not reality.
The one that really hurt was the one I gave up because we wanted very different things out of life. I had to choose between him and the man I ended up marrying. I made the right choice, but I never quit regretting that I had to choose at all. Both he and my husband are dead now, and in a way, I got to keep them both. I would've fallen out of love with the first guy very quickly because we were on different trajectories, and in the process, I would've missed out on 28 wonderful years with the man I married.
So be careful with the relationship nostalgia. Time might show you that it was for the best after all.
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