"Puffer-fishing in dating is when a person gets alarmed and pushes back once a relationship gets closer. This person essentially goes from a playful persona to one that's guarded, distant, or even combative. You may wonder why he or she is suddenly less conversant and-to use another sea creature-clams up a whole lot more. You may find the two of you suddenly getting into a whole lot of arguments, often over very minor things."
"The puffer fish is normally quite docile and playful-a bit SpongeBob SquarePantsy. However, when there's a possible threat around, the puffer fish literally goes, "Gulp"-gulping in enough water to swell its flexible body to two or three times its normal size. This swelling will, at the same time, cause sharp spines on the puffer fish's body to jut out, creating a not-so-swell situation for predators who want to eat and swallow the puffer fish."
"Now, there are two big reasons why people may puffer fish. One is that they may not be interested in commitment at all; perhaps they're players or just not ready to settle down yet. Or, they may simply not want to settle down with you specifically."
"Open, respectful, and non-judgmental communication is key when dealing with puffer-fishing in dating."
Puffer fish swell and grow spines when sensing danger, making them harder for predators to eat. Puffer-fishing in dating refers to a person who becomes alarmed as a relationship gets closer and then pushes back. The shift can include becoming less available, more critical, and more confusing, along with more arguments over minor issues. People may puffer fish because they are not interested in commitment or are not ready to settle down. They may also avoid settling down with a specific person. Open, respectful, and non-judgmental communication helps address the guarded behavior and clarify intentions.
Read at Psychology Today
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