"My boyfriend and I (we're both men) are both in our late 20s. We started dating in our last year of university and moved in together about a year after. He's very good at those in-demand tech and number-focused computer skills, so he already had good employment lined up before graduation. I struggled to find full-time work in my field, and worked part-time while doing the household cleaning, cooking, shopping, etc."
"This summer, I finally got the full-time job I've always wanted, and predictably, I have much less time for the house. Dinners got less complicated, laundry sat out for longer without being done, etc. My boyfriend was completely baffled by this, because he thought household chores worked as they do in a video game. Put dirty clothes in the machine, and they get clean in minutes. Stick ingredients in the oven, and a whole lasagne comes out."
Two men in their late 20s moved in together after dating in university. One partner had in-demand tech skills and secured employment before graduation; the other handled most household cleaning, cooking, and shopping while working part-time. After the homemaker obtained a full-time job, time for domestic tasks decreased and chores accumulated. The employed partner was baffled and assumed household work was instant because of "technology and stuff." He now helps occasionally, but the homemaker experiences a recurring inner voice that calls the partner "dumb" and seeks a way to silence that mean-spirited resentment without leaving.
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