Harriette Cole: I asked my boyfriend where he was going with no shirt on
Briefly

A woman expresses discomfort with her boyfriend's habit of leaving the house shirtless to go to his sanitation job. She finds it inappropriate, while he believes it's practical and hygienic. To address this, she should communicate her feelings and suggest wearing an undershirt. Additionally, a separate situation discusses a friend's party where the individual succumbed to peer pressure to drink shots, leading to negative consequences by the end of the night. This highlights issues of personal values and social drinking.
Your boyfriend is being practical. Working in sanitation means that his uniform is likely not fresh even if he launders it regularly. Not bringing that into the house probably seems hygienic to him. You are facing an etiquette dilemma: You grew up believing people should not go outside undressed. How do you address this? Directly.
Tell your boyfriend that it makes you uncomfortable that he leaves the house half-naked. Explain that it bothers you because your value system says that's inappropriate. Ask him if he would consider wearing an undershirt.
If he says no, you will have to decide what you can live with. People have all kinds of quirks. Is going to his car shirtless a dealbreaker for you?
At some point, my friend was encouraging me to take shots of liquor, and in hopes of loosening up, I did. By the end of the night, I was in no condition.
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