The article explores the dynamics of relationships, specifically the author's experience with his ex-wife regarding the nuances of communication and intimacy. While he believed finishing her sentences represented closeness, she deemed it intrusive. It highlights that the idea of romantic oneness often leads to enmeshment, where boundaries blur, straining individuality. The author argues that healthy relationships should embrace 'twoness,' allowing partners to retain their identities while fostering connection without losing themselves to the idea of complete fusion.
It implies telepathic understanding; we could use fewer words, economizing our intimacy.
Among the most common insights from our spiritual and psychedelic traditions are the boundary-dissolving revelations that 'it's all connected' and 'we're all one.'
...this isn't true intimacy. It's enmeshment. Fusion of the sort that makes it hard for people to discern where they leave off and their partner begins.
Twoness is just as important, and more realistic. It’s giving a space for individuality within the relationship.
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