Dear James: I Want to Want to Listen
Briefly

The article discusses a woman's struggle to maintain attention during her husband's lengthy conversations after 14 years of marriage. Despite her love and admiration for him, she finds herself zoning out when he talks at length. She questions whether her boredom is a common marital issue or a consequence of social media's effect on her attention span. The response reassures her that this boredom is typical in long-term relationships and suggests examining her husband's conversational style and how it may have changed over the years.
You are not horrible, but my answer to all your other questions is 'yes.' You are, from time to time, bored-bored silly, bored to tears, bored (in this case) to unhearingness.
Your husband has his less-than-fierily-compelling moments, as we all do. This is indeed a normal condition of married life. And yup, the internet / the world (same thing, these days) is not helping.
Let me ask you this: How often does your husband talk 'at length'? Is he a holding-forth type of guy? And has this tendency increased over the years?
I think a lot about people who talk too much, people who—as we say in England—go on a bit. They have their less-than-fierily-compelling moments.
Read at The Atlantic
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