Asking Eric: Is this enough reason to violate my son's no-contact request?
Briefly

A mother reflects on her estrangement from her adult son, who cut off contact due to feelings about his upbringing. Despite honoring his no-contact request, she contemplates sending a letter to inform him of her condition should she become terminally ill. The advice given suggests that her underlying need is for connection rather than merely notification, emphasizing that her son doesn't require permission to be informed of her passing. Ultimately, the situation speaks to deeper feelings of loss and the desire for reconciliation.
It's clear that your son's decision is painful and you feel helpless to fix it. And so, the mind naturally goes to a scenario that might get a response.
What you're reaching for is a connection with your son. Or, at the least, reassurance that there is still something left in your relationship.
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