As a therapist for mothers facing guilt over their children's mental health or addiction issues, I help them recognize their strengths and separate their self-worth from their children's struggles. Despite societal pressures illustrated through social media, these mothers often feel grief and inadequacy. A personal experience with my daughter's health visit highlighted that, while positive reinforcement is appreciated, it often feels insufficient compared to the challenges faced in parenting. Celebrating successes and acknowledging ongoing efforts are crucial for these mothers' self-acceptance.
I have celebrated and soothed alongside these mothers, hour by hour, year by year. Like most parents, their children had a variety of moments: power struggles, science fairs, sports achievements, and disappointing mistakes.
After a private chat, my pediatrician came out with a big smile. She spoke to me about my daughter's growth and confidence and said, 'Great job, Mom! Keep doing what you're doing!'
I don't like to hear 'Good job, Mom'... Sometimes the pediatrician had lots of recommendations for me, because my child needed more care or different supports.
When my kids struggle, I'm still working hard behind the scenes.
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