"When they're little and you're leaving them with a babysitter and they ask in a plaintive tiny voice for your estimated time of return, your heart is gripped in a vice of guilt and impatience."
"You cannot fathom why your absence would be such a benefit; will they have an impromptu party? Start a fire? But that is because you're avoiding its unspoken centre: it is much more relaxing for them when you're out of the house."
"All these caregivers want is to get up in your business. They want to meet your friends, and then meet your friends' parents. They want to admire the municipal tulip offering in full bloom."
Driving a niece to university evokes feelings of nostalgia and sadness about parenting. Children transition from needing reassurance about a parent's return to seeking independence. The caregiver's presence can feel intrusive to young adults, who may prefer their freedom. The narrator reflects on the desire to be a 'dream' caregiver while also recognizing the relief that comes with absence. The contrast between the narrator's rush and the sister's desire to linger illustrates differing perspectives on parental involvement during significant life transitions.
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