In this letter, a concerned mother struggles with her adult son's persistent issues, such as medical problems, job instability, and dependence on her support. Despite having kicked him out before, she acknowledges her role as an enabler and wants to help him develop independence. She seeks advice on how to communicate to her son that she loves him but can no longer provide the support that has allowed him to avoid facing his own challenges, emphasizing that this change is for his own benefit. Abby suggests open communication and possibly involving a therapist.
"It's important to communicate to Jake that while you love him, your role as enabler has to end for his growth. You must help him understand the need for self-sufficiency."
"Let him know his ongoing problems are self-generated and that you will no longer be his safety net. Addressing this may require therapy for your own support."
Collection
[
|
...
]