Sifu Dan Jones emphasizes the importance of 'allowing' in practices like Tai Chi and in dealing with survivor guilt. The article explores how survivors can struggle with feelings of guilt and sorrow after traumatic events, illustrated through two examples: a woman's profound grief after surviving a life-threatening illness while learning of her friend's son’s tragic death, and an organizational upheaval that involved mass firings, where remaining employees grappled with their feelings of distress and guilt. Jones advocates for a mindful approach to coping with these emotions, suggesting that relaxation and acceptance can facilitate healing.
Allowing, instead of trying, allowing the mind to quiet, allowing the body to relax, breathing normal through the nose, maintaining your Tai Chi stance.
She could not believe that she had lived and that young boy had died. Why did she survive? She felt an enormous sense of sorrow and remorse. That's survivor's guilt.
In that organization, firing people was not a normal practice - at all. If a manager did fire someone, it was excruciating.
The key is that firing people was not a normal practice - firing everyone and hiring them back one by one created distress among the survivors.
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