"Mattering is defined by researchers as feeling valued by ourselves, our family, our friends, our colleagues, and society - and then having an opportunity to add value back."
"When we feel like we matter, we show up in positive ways: We want to engage, contribute, and connect with people. When we feel like we don't matter, we might withdraw, turn to substances, numb ourselves with our screens."
"A study I quoted in the book shares that for suicidal men, the two most common words used to describe their suffering are 'useless' and 'worthless.' Those are the words of feeling like you don't matter."
Mattering is defined as feeling valued by oneself and others, which significantly impacts various life aspects. Key ingredients include feeling significant, appreciated, invested in, and depended on. When individuals feel they matter, they engage positively with others. Conversely, feelings of insignificance can lead to withdrawal or destructive behaviors. Historical context shows that the motivation to matter is fundamental to human behavior, influencing actions from engagement to extreme responses when individuals feel overlooked or undervalued.
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