The article discusses how political conflicts can evoke strong emotional responses, often leading individuals into survival mode rather than productive conversation. It emphasizes that it's not a failure in character but a reaction from our nervous system. Genuine listening is portrayed as a powerful, active practice that aids emotional regulation, differentiating it from the passive activity often misconceived by many. This approach allows for mutual recognition despite profound differences, fostering healthier dialogues during contentious discussions.
Listening-genuinely listening-is one of the most powerful tools we have in our civic toolbox. Not because it guarantees agreement, but because it creates the psychological conditions where mutual recognition becomes possible.
When you feel stuck or shaky in conflict, it's not weakness-it's your nervous system in survival mode. You're just up against a nervous system that's been pushed to its limit.
Listening to persuade is more exhausting-and less effective-than listening to understand. If this hits close to home, you’re not alone.
By the end, you’re exhausted, ashamed, and wondering: Why do I keep walking into these conversations? Listening isn't weak. It's a neurological strategy.
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