"Many readers come to Psychology Today because they have a strong desire to grow and improve themselves. Yet because we live with ourselves every day, we don't always notice the ways we've grown. And sometimes, even when we do see our growth, we dwell on how an earlier version of ourselves was inferior and beat ourselves up about it. Use the points in this article to take a few moments away from thoughts about your flaws and new goals,"
"Experiencing a desire to work with smarter and smarter people shows we've noticed that iron sharpens iron. We're not so intimidated, envious, or jealous that it precludes us from leveling up our colleagues and collaborators. Just as a desire to seek out very smart people to work with can be a sign we're interested in solving bigger problems, a desire to work with unconventional people can show you're willing to give up some of the safety of predictability. You tolerate some unpredictability for novel perspectives."
New hobbies and interests that once seemed irrelevant indicate openness to change and an evolving self-concept. Outgrowing past interests often means their value was extracted and it is healthy to move on. Wanting to work with smarter or less conventional people reflects a desire to level up, engage in bigger problems, and embrace novel perspectives. Increased tolerance for uncertainty, unresolved problems, and flux shows greater resilience and acceptance of situations beyond immediate control. Celebrating these quieter signs of growth helps counter tendency to ruminate on past flaws or compare current self to earlier, less developed versions.
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