"My sister, "Sally," and I have always been close, which means I've had a front row seat to her formerly chaotic dating life. There was an era all of Sally's friends called "the soap opera year" because her romantic life was unbelievable. I was so happy when she finally got into a stable, loving relationship, although I was surprised that it wasn't a monogamous one."
"But when she asked if our girls (5 and 7) could be flower girls in her wedding, he instantly said no. They were at his cousin's wedding this past summer and loved it. When I tried to talk to him about it, he said the relationship was going to fall apart, and he didn't want our kids to be part of that. But plenty of marriages end in divorce, and we don't skip weddings for that reason."
Sally moved from a chaotic dating period into a stable, loving polyamorous relationship involving two men who are also with each other, lasting about five years. The trio bought a house and plan to sign legal documents and hold a symbolic marriage ceremony this summer. Extended family initially reacted coolly but largely warmed up. The husband never connected with Sally or her fiancés and refused permission for his daughters, ages five and seven, to be flower girls. He cited fears the relationship will fail or that the ceremony would confuse the children. The wife objects and seeks a way to address his judgment.
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